This is, without a doubt, one of the most heartbreaking subjects in the world…two parents fighting over custody of their child. Each parent likes the child, maybe even more than their own lives, and yet somebody is going to walk away from this perfectly broken hearted and devastated. If you don’t want that person to be you, then I recommend you read this article.

For starters, each state has different laws in regard to child custody, just like each state has different divorce laws. So if you’re looking for a one size fits all to this problem, it doesn’t exist. What I can give you here is some common sense advice that will help the process go as smoothly as possible.

Secondly, and this may be the most vital thing for your to keep in mind, child custody is hard on you and your ex, yes. But as hard as it is on the two of you, reckon about the child who is in the middle of all this. That small person has it the toughest of all of you. So it is vital that you reassure the child that they are loved by both of you and that none of what’s going on is their fault. You need to be supportive of the child at all times.

As far as having the best chance of really winning the custody battle, you need to present yourself to the court in the best possible light. That means, for starters, dressing by the book and acting by the book. In other words, and there is no other way to place this, if you are a drunk who doesn’t have a clean suit, sober yourself up quickly and buy a new suit. I’m dead serious. In child custody cases, appearances are all as your ex is going to throw as much dirt at you as they can. Don’t help their case.

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Let me start off by saying that I despise lawyers and I despise legal proceedings. And child custody is at the top of my list of things that I despise the most. As a parent, there is nothing of poorer quality than this. But I don’t have to tell you that if you’re reading this article. Right now, you are literally fighting for your life. Well, before you start that fight, you might want to read the few paragraphs below. It just might mean the difference between winning and bringing up the rear.

For starters, and I can’t stress this enough, get yourself a excellent lawyer. Don’t question him what his fees are or anything like that. Just get the best. Quite honestly, if fighting for custody of your child doesn’t deserve the best then save yourself the distress and hand the kid over to your ex. I’m serious. Without a fantastic lawyer, you don’t stand a snowball’s chance in hell.

Don’t come off as the terrible guy. In other words, yes, you want to point out the weaknesses of your ex when testifying. But you also want to point out what is excellent about your ex. This is a strategy that usually works very well because you come off as being unbiased in your opinion. Naturally, consult with your attorney on this tactic, but I reckon he will agree that it can work very well as it will paint you as a honest person.

By the same token, don’t paint yourself as a saint. This isn’t going to wash. You want to be reliable about your own weaknesses. If you have some serious ones, such as being an alcoholic, you want to own up to this. If you’re up front about your own problems, but also stress that you’re working on improving, this will go over very well with the judge. We all have our faults. Don’t try to hide yours.

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What It Contains?

Anyone who files for mutual divorce, no matter how improbable it might seem for them to have a future dispute, needs to have a consent order in place. Let us first analyse the innumerable benefits of a consent order. This will help us identify the people for whom this agreement will prove to be beneficial. A consent order might include but not limited to the following aspects of financial agreement:

Sharing of property bought during the marriage
Child Maintenance
Monthly maintenance
Debts taken during the marriage towards mortgage, etc.
Sharing of other assets such as furniture in the house, etc.
Personal property owned by them even before their marriage
Pension sharing

Who Needs Them Most?

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It is well known that divorce is hard. The couple can feel rage, sadness, disappointment, and even embarrassment. This is so right that it is a cliche.

What we don’t discuss often, and maybe we should, is the effect that divorce has on extended family. The pain caused by the divorce to grandparents, aunts and uncles is not obvious. It isn’t as intense as it is for the principle parties, either. But, extended family members can be treated to some of the couple’s problems when family events turn into child possession wars.

When special occasions arise, arrangements for the child’s attendance often have to be made with an stubborn, hostile ex-spouse. Too often, the children cannot join the family because:

1. The noncustodial parent’s visitation naturally takes place when the family event is scheduled. If you only get to see your kids for 2 weekends a month, you might not be inclined to give up, or even postpone your time with them. This is especially right if the custodial parent is in the habit of making plans with the child during the other parent’s visitation time, or has been less than generous when the other parent has questioned for concessions.

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Recognising the traumatic situation, children are in; divorce courts pay utmost importance to child welfare. Other than deciding child custodial issues, the legal process is also attracted in child residential issues. Placing paramount importance to child welfare, the parents, mediators or the court might arrive at different decisions best suited to each party case.

Splitting Siblings to Live With Different Parents

Each family is only one of its kind. In families where there are more than one or two children, each parent might choose to each take a child. This may be the best choice in the given circumstances, but splitting siblings is not excellent. Over the years, siblings form a common bond and turn role models and best friends to each other. They suffer much in the absence of the other.

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Divorce is extremely hard on a person emotionally and physically. This is especially right for children. It is very vital that they have the genteel help and support during this hard time. They need to know and know that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents still like them very much.

How you can help:

1. Both parents must work hard at putting aside their rage and hard feelings toward each other when it comes to the kids. If possible, you should sit down and make child care arrangements that will be suitable for both of you and more importantly the children. This is much simpler and less painful than having to go into court and have them choose for you.

2. You have to be able to pull together to help the children through this hard time. Redefine your relationship with your former spouse. Instead of seeing yourselves as former spouses rather see yourselves as joint custodians working together for what’s best for your kids. Make as much stability as you can for your kids. If one parent decides to go against their commitment to help their kids in a responsible way, you should take the higher ground and help and support them as best you can.

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DISCLAIMER: The following is NOT legal advice, nor is it a substitute for legal advice. If you are in Family Court you will need legal advice, so delight see a lawyer.

Finding a fantastic lawyer when you are a divorced dad can be challenging. Here are some helpful insights:

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Before the Best Interests of the Child

Marriages in the United States are legal contracts between a husband and a wife. While you might simply leave your spouse, if a touch were to happen to either of you, the other might be liable for debt, or inherit money that you don’t want to allow your spouse to have. A divorce is the way to legally dissolve a marriage and split shared assets. Although divorces are emotionally taxing, most of them are resolved amicably and not in bitterly contested court proceedings.

There are the basic types of divorce:

1. No-fault

2. Fault

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When the matter of child custody and rights to a child evolve, the battle is a long one with unmarried parents. Married parents who get divorced do not have to prove paternity to retain rights, while parents who are not married may be required to prove paternity. A family law lawyer is best to consult with on your rights as a parent and should be consulted before entering into any legal proceedings or filing for custody or child support.

If a child is born out of wedlock, the mother is automatically granted custody unless an adjudication or registration of paternity is filed. For the father to seek custody or visitation rights, he must establish that he is the father of the child through blood tests or DNA tests. Consult with a family law attorney on the best way to obtain a paternity test.

Establishing paternity does not automatically guarantee custody, though. Fathers must obtain a court order if they want to be granted custody of the child; otherwise most courts still assume the mother has custody.

But unmarried fathers who prove paternity and obtain court instructions are still entitled to the same rights as a divorced father as long as there are no issues that would make that person a threat to the child such as domestic violence and abuse.

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